My Baby Story

My Baby Story

I’m going to start by saying there is probably no other woman on this earth as scared as me to give birth.  I’m not a huge fan of the unknown and this experience has been completely new, foreign and unknown to me.  I’m a big wimp when it comes to pain and discomfort so I just knew I was in for a treat.  There were so many stories my friends with kids told me to prepare myself, but I at times felt like my experience was completely different.  I would often ask my husband why are women such liars.

I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks which I knew something was off, I was experiencing a lot of fatigue and my pre-workout energy drink was suddenly making me nauseous which was lasting all day.  Then ABSOLUTE ELATION! the notification was made.  My first few months was pretty miserable with 24 hour a day nausea I thought would never go away.  After month number three it was much more bearable but I still dealt with every day sickness but thank goodness no vomiting which simply became a way of life.  After the first three months, I resumed my workout routine which became my life saver, It gave me more energy, helped keep my nausea at bay at least while I was working out and overall made me feel much better. I can honestly say I had a trouble free pregnancy with very little swelling which would happen periodically but only in my right ankle.  I craved LOTS of fruit, cereal and yogurt and a nightly dose of ice cream :).  I didn’t obsess over my weight and was sometime concerned I wasn’t gaining enough.  When It was all said and done, I gained a total of 24lbs which I was told was the average.  When I hit the 8th month milestone is when I truly started to look and feel pregnant and as much as I loved breathing life into this beautiful little girl, I was tired of being pregnant and wanted my pre-pregnancy energy back.  With weeks left to go, I often received questions about braxton hicks, contractions and aches and pains which is when I felt most lost because I wasn’t experiencing what I thought contractions and braxton hicks should feel like.  My only sensation was pressure that I contributed to her getting bigger.  So the waiting game began!

Labor and delivery
I had no clue what to look for,  I watched Birth Day and Maternity Ward religiously which was my only barometer.  In my mind, I would be out in public and become doubled over in pain from contractions.  What really happened was a lot more zen.  Friday night I spent the entire night sewing and finishing my DIY diaper bag then finally going to bed about 11 pm.  It was like any other evening with no idications of what was to come.

6:30 am the following morning, I was awake and laying on the sofa having cramps that felt more like I needed to use the bathroom (I know TMI) I finally got up at 6:45 to use the bathroom and once I entered the bathroom, out comes a small puddle of fluid, I took a another step and out comes additional fluid instantly I knew my water just broke.  I called my husband and told him my water broke and he thought I was joking because I joked with him about my water breaking on a daily basis, but considering the time and the fact I was still sort of sleep he knew I was serious.  He instantly said lets go in a nervous voice which was surprising because I was very calm.  Now if I can give anyone advice, please make sure your hospital bag is ready and at the door.  But because this is my first baby and this was four days before my due date and generally first timers go well beyond their due date I thought I had plenty of time NOPE!

I immediately began to get my bag together and was clueless as to what to bring simply because my brain was on overload, so I tossed everything I didn’t need in my bag, needless to say I left items I needed including my camera I never leave home without.  After feeding our cats and dog and making arrangements to have a friend come in check on them, we were out the door.  At this point it’s 7:15 which will tell you how fast we were moving.  Once my water broke I began to experience contractions which felt like menstrual cramps that were coming and going.  While in route to the hospital, I started using the app Full Term to start tracking the contractions which at this point were 5-6 minutes apart, uncomfortable but not very painful.  I was starving and mad I didn’t eat and only had a granola bar in my purse and scarfed that down still surprisingly calm.  I knew I was going to meet my little girl that day.

We arrived at the hospital, checked in and I was examined to make sure my water had indeed broken.  I was really excited to see my obgyn was the doc on call that day and was already at the hospital.  At this point my contractions were about 2-3 minutes apart and getting stronger.  I was 1cm dilated and 75% effaced when my doctor said the unthinkable…….I’m going to start you on pitocin (WTF) I couldn’t understand why?!?! my contractions were 2-3 minutes apart, my water has only been broken for two hours and I’m progressing! I’m thinking NO lets just play this out.  I was so afraid of the P word because of all the horror stories I heard about induced labor and the pain you experience is 10x worst than naturally letting it happen.  But I was told being only 1cm dilated I needed assistance.

I was finally moved into my labor and delivery room and at this point it’s 9:30.  My contractions have now become painful and still about 2-3 minutes apart.  At around 10:30 I was given the dreaded pitocin! All I’m going to say is almost instantly I was experiencing pain that was excruciating with no brakes in between.  I tried to focus on the end result but with pain like that it was a challenge.  After about an hour I couldn’t take it any longer and was given an epidural.  I was then checked to see how I had progressed in that hour and a half and was happy to find out I was 7cm and 100% effaced.  I labored until 2:30 when I was told it was time to push.  The great thing about an epidural is it completely takes the pain away, the downside is when it’s time to push you have no sensation and have to be told when your having a contraction and when to push.  I pushed for 25 minutes and out came the most amazing little 6lb 14.4 oz 19″ angel.  Chandler Marie Revis

Contributions and tips
What I can say contributed to my seamless pregnancy, labor and delivery was being active and working out prior to pregnancy and maintaining a fitness routine during my pregnancy up until the day before giving birth.  I had very few lazy sofa days so not staying active for me wasn’t an option.  I made an effort to eat for energy and health with two daily smoothies consisting of fruit, spinach and chia seeds.  Daily bowl of raisin bran or chex, yogurt and during the end of my pregnancy a friend of mine turned me on to a true energy booster which is chicken liver.  Most people may be grossed out but the crazy thing is liver was my favorite food as a child so this was a cake walk for me.  Because I don’t eat red meat or pork products, I deal with low iron so this chicken liver was definitely a welcome treat for me which was a dinner and lunch staple at least three times per week.  The last few months of pregnancy I drank red raspberry leaf tea daily which I was told helps thin the cervix, not sure how true it is for everyone but it seemed to work for me.  Like most women we are concerned about the dreaded stretch marks and I was completely prepared to get them lasered away, yeah I know kinda vein but my bathing suit days aren’t over yet.  All the research done on stretch marks clearly maintain if your mom had them, you will have them.  Despite what I thought was the inevitable, from the moment I discovered I was pregnant I slathered my belly daily with bio-oil in the morning and castor oil and coconut oil at night. I also believe because the 25lbs I added was gradual it helped avoid any sudden skin stretching which also helps avoid stretch marks.

It’s hard to wrap my brain around the fact I am now a mother.  I’m responsible for raising this innocent baby into a responsible, honest, kind and loving woman in a world that’s not so kind and loving.  It’s a job I’m very aware of and taking more serious than any job I could ever have.

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61 Comments

  1. Anonymous
    October 7, 2014 / 12:22 pm

    Congrats! Reading your story was heartfelt.

  2. October 7, 2014 / 12:56 pm

    Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing.

  3. October 7, 2014 / 1:14 pm

    She is beautiful Nikki! I'm so glad you had a great experience!

  4. October 7, 2014 / 1:23 pm

    Congrats Nikki, she is gorgeous.

  5. October 7, 2014 / 2:35 pm

    Congratulations, your daughter is beautiful!!!

    During my L & D I knew Pitocin on a first name basis, since I had to have it 3X. Welcome to the journey that is motherhood.

  6. October 7, 2014 / 2:56 pm

    Aww so precious. I read this post so intently as if I was reading a juicy novel lol. Congrats on the new baby girl :)!

  7. October 7, 2014 / 3:24 pm

    Wonderful story. She is gorgeous- the baby on chest picture is touching. Thanks for sharing!

  8. October 7, 2014 / 3:31 pm

    What a beautiful baby. She is so precious. Thanks for sharing!

  9. October 7, 2014 / 3:35 pm

    Awww… Chandler and I share the same birthday! Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  10. October 7, 2014 / 3:38 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story so simply and honnestly! You looked fabulous all the way through your pregnancy and your routine sounds like it was very efficient and it worked for you, which showed!
    Congratulations on your beautiful baby!

  11. October 7, 2014 / 4:18 pm

    Congratulations to you Nikki enjoy your baby!!!

  12. October 7, 2014 / 4:26 pm

    Congratulations!

  13. Charlene Baggs
    October 7, 2014 / 4:32 pm

    Congratulations! She's beautiful! What a beautiful story you'll have to share with your daughter. Welcome to motherhood!

  14. October 7, 2014 / 5:05 pm

    Oh my goodness! Congratulations on the beautiful baby girl! Such an amazing story.

  15. October 7, 2014 / 6:01 pm

    Congratulations! And welcome to this world, little Chandles Marie Revis, into the hands of a loving and caring mom and dad.

  16. October 7, 2014 / 6:05 pm

    Congratulations!!!! Your baby is beautiful!!!

  17. October 7, 2014 / 6:30 pm

    Congratulations hold on tight they grow real quickly.

  18. October 7, 2014 / 7:36 pm

    Congratulation and many blessings to your beautiful daughter. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  19. October 7, 2014 / 8:02 pm

    SHE IS SOOOOOOOOO CUTE!. Although, I have not been working out like I should due to a slip/fall, my pregnancy has been similar to yours. I am probably right up there with you with my fear of labor, and I am a wimp as well when it comes to pain. Currently 31 weeks! I will definitely take your advice! Congrats!

  20. October 7, 2014 / 8:57 pm

    Congratulations! Enjoy these sweet baby days:)

  21. October 7, 2014 / 9:16 pm

    she is so cute! Congrats!

  22. October 8, 2014 / 10:14 am

    Hi Nikki,
    Blessings to you girl!
    Been looking out for this announcement and I thank you for keeping it so real!
    xxx
    J.

  23. October 8, 2014 / 11:16 am

    Just gorgeous. Enjoy this amazing journey with your precious daughter!

  24. Xavier
    October 8, 2014 / 12:15 pm

    Congrats on your bundle of joy! Many blessings to you and your family! #DaughtersRock!

  25. October 8, 2014 / 12:17 pm

    Congratulations Nikki! Welcome to the mommy club… Thank you for your honesty and sharing your story. Your encounter with Pitocin reminded me of my own ….twice! She is beautiful …. May she be a blessing to everyone she meets!

  26. Puvana Subramaniam
    October 8, 2014 / 1:01 pm

    Congrats Nikki. This is one honest writeup i've seen on the pregnancy experience. Thanks for sharing. Lots of love from Malaysia.

  27. October 8, 2014 / 2:34 pm

    Congratulations again Nikki to you and your husband!!!! Absolutely love your story. Being a parent is one of the best gifts, what a beautiful litte princess you all have.

  28. October 8, 2014 / 3:27 pm

    Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!! Thank you for sharing your story, good thing you still managed to have a smooth labor, mine wasn't too great but seeing my baby was well worth it!! Welcome to motherhood, best advice I can give you, enjoy every moment with your precious child because time flies and before you know it she'll be older. Snap millions of pictures because it's nice to look back!!

  29. October 8, 2014 / 4:43 pm

    I just stumbled across your blog – your sewing skills are amazing! Congrats on your little one! I remember being silly scared too! xo

  30. October 8, 2014 / 7:41 pm

    Congratulations again! It's been 24 years since I had a labor pain..but boy oh boy do I remember. But the joy of being a parent out weighs all of those labor pains. 🙂

    Pam

  31. Anonymous
    October 8, 2014 / 9:56 pm

    Congrats on your beautiful little girl and welcome in the mummy club. I absolutely love your post. It's remind me of my 2 Labours ,except that I couldn't have epidural 🙁 but having my babies outweighs all the pain.
    Enjoy every moment… Motherhood is such an amazing experience.
    I first subscribed to your blog because of the tittle ( I am French , living in UK and sometimes home sick) finally I have found more than a tittle and some sewing tips. You 're such a talented woman and without a doubt a great mum. Xoxox

  32. October 9, 2014 / 12:57 am

    Congratulations to you and your husband on the birth of your beautiful daughter. Thank you so much for sharing your story, you are such an inspiration. Looking forward to seeing your fabulous DIY creations for Chandler! God Bless you and your family. x

  33. October 9, 2014 / 2:11 am

    Congratulations! All the best to you and your beautiful little girl.

  34. October 9, 2014 / 3:20 am

    Congrats! She's a beautiful baby! Loved your heartfelt story!

  35. Anonymous
    October 9, 2014 / 3:28 am

    Congratulations – she's a beauty!

  36. October 9, 2014 / 12:29 pm

    Congratulations from your friends at the McCall Pattern Company! Looking forward to seeing beautiful mom and daughter looks on the two of you. Remember, sleep when the baby sleeps! No sewing for you for awhile….

  37. October 9, 2014 / 1:14 pm

    Congratulations! She's a beauty! Thanks for sharing your birthing story.

  38. Anonymous
    October 9, 2014 / 3:04 pm

    Congratulations :):)!!!! i am so happy you had a safe and healthy delivery. Your daughter is a beautiful addition to your family. Be well

  39. October 10, 2014 / 12:39 pm

    BLESSINGS to you, your husband and beautiful baby…..GOD BLESS her

  40. October 10, 2014 / 11:04 pm

    Thank you for sharing your very special moments with us. God's blessings be upon your "new" family.

  41. Anonymous
    October 11, 2014 / 4:56 am

    Congratulations!!!! So happy for you!!!

  42. October 11, 2014 / 9:08 am

    Well done Nikki, your daughter is beautiful! God bless your family 🙂

  43. October 11, 2014 / 11:13 pm

    Congratulations and oh what a wonderful story! You and your new baby are absolutely enchanting! Enjoy every moment!

  44. October 12, 2014 / 1:04 pm

    Chandler, what a beautiful name for a beautiful baby. congrats, to you and your hubby!

  45. October 15, 2014 / 5:22 pm

    Congratulations on your beautiful little blessing!

  46. October 16, 2014 / 12:42 am

    Congratulations to you and your hubby.

    Thanks for sharing your pregnancy journey with us.

  47. October 16, 2014 / 12:42 am

    Congratulations to you and your hubby.

    Thanks for sharing your pregnancy journey with us.

  48. Anonymous
    October 25, 2014 / 4:43 pm

    Congrats Nikki

  49. Anonymous
    November 9, 2014 / 5:14 am

    Congrats on your lovely baby and thanks for sharing. Yr story brought back memories of my first pregnancy and encouraged me as im now
    expecting again. All the best!

  50. November 10, 2014 / 4:33 pm

    Congrats 🙂 I wish you and your angela happy, healty life. I wonder of your cats and dog reaction to baby 🙂 ı hope cats welcome her too

  51. December 2, 2014 / 3:17 am

    Congratulations on the birth of your little girl! Appreciate you letting us into your world.

  52. September 23, 2016 / 12:05 am

    I’m a soon-to-be mom, 10 weeks pregnant, and boy has it been hard! I have hyperemesis and the past three days have been the best so far. After reading your story it has given me so much hope. I found your blog a couple of years ago and now I appreciate it that much more. I know now that it will get better, I know now that I will get back to my workout routine, and I know now that everything will be ok. So thank you and congrats!

    • Nikki
      September 27, 2016 / 3:23 am

      Thank you so much! I vividly remember being 10 weeks and thinking “this is going to be a long 9 months” but it goes by quickly, embrace it all and once your baby is in your arms, it will be a distant memory. And then we can discuss multi tasking, lack of sleep and a new normal 🙂

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